So, I went back to 4x06 and re-watched the Stelena break-up scene because I was too busy fangirling over the ACTUAL start of Delena to properly take it all in…I’m glad I did because I. AM. PISSED.
I’ll tell you why…for 3 seasons we’ve watched Damon constantly defend his brothers actions to Elena (and others). Damon has always talked about how good his brother is, how much more deserving he is & generally what a noble person he is.
Damon is giving up his love for Elena because he thinks Stefan deserves her more…he’s putting their happiness before his own. Here are a few examples:
"I don’t deserve you, but my brother does…" - 2x08
"You should know this, Elena. Stefan didn’t screw us over. He screwed us over, but he had a good reason." - 3x10
"I know you think Stefan has been lying to you, which yeah, he has, but this rough patch that you two have been going through is not what you think. Everything he’s been doing, he’s been doing for you, to help you." - 4x06
He doesn’t drive a wedge between Stelena…he doesn’t manipulate situations to make Stefan look bad or himself look good. He’s nothing but honest with her even if it hurts her or changes her opinion of him.
Stefan on the other hand, does nothing but belittle and put down his brother constantly when talking about him to Elena;
"Damon has no regard for human life. He enjoys inflicting pain on others." - 1x03
"There’s nothing human left in Damon. No good, no kindness, only a monster who must be stopped." - 1x03
"Why are you trying to save him, Elena? He’s never gonna change, don’t you see that?" - 1x08
"I have the one thing you’ll never have…her respect." - 2x19
"You’re better than him, Elena." - 3x12
"She’s sure as hell better off without you." - 3x15
"Elena & I broke up. Let’s not pretend this isn’t the happiest day of your life." - 4x07
He’s horrible when talking about his brother. He only ever tells Elena how bad he is whereas Damon tries to show Elena the good in Stefan. I HATED that he made Elena feel guilty about loving Damon, especially when he said,
"You know before…when I was the ripper…I understood why you cared for him. I mean I practically drove you to it…but now…I can’t do this, Elena." - 4x06
The irritating part is Elena doesn’t see all of this…she has no idea about some of the things Stefan has said to Damon regarding her.
If she did she’d probably have a hell of a lot to say about it, especially the bit about Stefan having her respect and Damon never being able to earn it too. Damon has earned her respect & trust 100 times over compared to Stefan. I just hope she realises before she ends up breaking Damon’s heart permanently…#rantover